Family counselors recommend that divorced parents maintain as much stability for their children as possible. After all, the children are likely already feeling out of sorts with the separation, especially if child custody rulings include traveling frequently between the Tennessee homes of their parents. As difficult as it may be, keeping open and respectful communication with an ex-spouse will be important. Children quickly resent being messengers between their warring parents, and the ability to communicate well with a co-parent may ensure more consistency in parenting styles.
Children may also rely on extended family to help them through the difficult adjustment. This may mean grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins from the ex’s side of the family. Excluding those people from the lives of children may eliminate opportunities for the children to express things they may feel uncomfortable saying to their parents.
While emotions may be raw for some time after the divorce, advisors urge parents to control any feelings of jealousy. This temptation may arise if one’s children prefer spending time at the other parent’s house or if the other parent develops a new romantic interest. By maintaining a dignified demeanor, a parent demonstrates respect for the children who are learning to cope with a potentially stressful, confusing situation.
In the best of circumstances, divorced parents can find common ground to provide a safe and loving place for their children to adapt. However, this is not always the case. If child custody issues arise that parents cannot resolve on their own, they may turn to a Tennessee family law attorney for guidance and advice.
Source: Chicago Tribune, “Ways to make divorce easier on kids”, July 12, 2017